Older men and younger men dating
But it's not an exact science — there are plenty of immature older men that would put teenagers to shame.
Woman D: I'm now married to a man who is five years older than me so I suppose patterns would say I'm attracted to men older than me.
Woman B: It has very little impact, although it does lead to some amusing jokes at times. Because we worked together we were able to spend time together and I would come home from school on the weekends.
He is a film nerd and usually mentions the year a film came out. " It's now at the point where he preempts me saying that. Once we were a more formal couple things became much harder.
Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.
Woman C: I knew he was older, I just didn't think that he was that much older. The next time we ran into each other was when I went to interview for a job in the ski resort's lift department, which he happened to be in charge of. I think he can't really find a woman to keep up with him, even in his own age group. The man I dated was essentially an 18-year-old himself when it came to maturity. Her older brother had invited a bunch of the people they worked with at the mountain over and I happened to be there. I think he was attracted to me because I asked him out, and I was able to banter with him off the bat.Did/does it impact sex at all, for better or for worse? This was one of the many ways the relationship was emotionally abusive — sex was always ostensibly on the table, but no matter how much I threw myself at him, I was always rejected. The fact that this man didn't want to have sex with me in spite of claiming to love me, in spite of the fact that men allegedly always want sex, in spite of the fact that they allegedly especially want sex with much younger women — all of this made the continual rejection especially painful. We have different tastes sexually — I'm more adventurous — but that has nothing to do with age.If anything, his emotional maturity has allowed us to have those tough conversations about sex.I think that because I was 18, he had expectations that I would be wild and crazy and open to anything.There were things that he expected with his party lifestyle that I felt very uncomfortable with, but would ignore my instinct and go along with to make him happy.I guess that was the biggest impact on the relationship — I let him mold me into the girl he wanted instead of being who I really was. I don't think they expected it to last because I had never been in a relationship before.What did/do you friends and family think of your relationship? A couple of my friends have similar stories about dating older men: they chose the person and not the age group. Woman C: My friends were much calmer than I thought they would be — a couple said they always thought I would end up with an older man.However, after the relationship with the significantly older man ended I vowed to only date close to my age again.I think that there is definitely some truth to the "age is just a number" mentality, but having the experience I did, I don't buy it completely.