Dating during and after divorce
Dealing with your ex, taking care of children’s needs, dividing up assets, and dealing with lawyers can deplete anyone, and it’s tempting seek support from your date or partner.However, doing so is a bad idea – it’s a reminder that you’re still “involved” with someone else (even if in a limited way), and it turns your problems into their problems. DO NOT DATE DURING DIVORCE AND CERTAINLY DO NOT LIVE WITH A GIRLFRIEND OR BOYFRIEND DURING THE DIVORCE.If you feel you must date, be as discreet as possible, preferably not allowing anyone to know you are dating.It’s okay to say you aren’t ready to get serious, that you need to focus on your divorce or your kids, or that you’re still hurting over the divorce.When you’re honest, instead of expecting you to give more than you’re able to, your dates can decide to accept your limitations or move on.
Every once in a while I am asked by clients whether or not they should get into a relationship during the divorce proceeding.
We have articles about dating during and after your divorce.
For more information, please click: 6 Do's and Don'ts of Dating After Divorce and Dating After Divorce: How to Date in a Technological World.
Wait until a reasonable time after the divorce is over before introducing your friend to your children.
Do not blame your spouse for becoming irrationally angry and your children for becoming resentful and alienated from you.